The anguish of Cat, the mother of Jayda, Maverick, and Ember Phillips, has reached a devastating new low. After nearly four years of torment since her ex-partner, Tom Phillips, vanished with their children into New Zealand’s Waikato bush in December 2021, her hopes of reuniting with them have been cruelly stalled. Following Phillips’ fatal police shootout on September 8, 2025, in Waitomo, Cat’s emotional plea—“Please bring my kids back to me, the police don’t let me see them”—has ignited outrage and heartbreak across the nation. Why is she still separated from her children?
The children, now 12, 10, and 9, were found safe but shaken at a remote campsite 2 kilometers from where Phillips was killed after shooting a police officer. Now in Oranga Tamariki care, they’re undergoing medical and psychological evaluations, but authorities have restricted Cat’s access, citing the children’s “complex needs” post-trauma. “It’s been four years of hell,” Cat told RNZ, her voice breaking. “I’m their mother—why can’t I hold them?” Photos of their makeshift camp, released by police, reveal a grim existence of tarps and firearms, amplifying concerns about their well-being.
Public sympathy is surging on X (#BringCatHerKids), with some accusing police of mishandling the delicate situation, while others argue the delay protects the children’s recovery. Acting Deputy Commissioner Jill Rogers insists the focus is on “wrap-around support,” but Cat’s desperate wait fuels questions: Is this justice, or another wound for a grieving mother?
